paano mangligaw...

Kung nasanay ka na nagka-syota ka dahil sa M.U. (mutual understanding) then ang panliligaw ang isa sa pinaka-challenging na gawain, sa tutuo lang.   Sa M.U. naman kasi, tinginan lang ng malagkit, ayos na.  Walang masyadong kiyeme.  Gusto kita.  Gusto mo ako.  Mag-syota na tayo.  Ganun kadali.  Pero kung manliligaw ka, sangkaterbang pawis, luha at dugo ang katapat.  Papano ba talagang manligaw?  Ito ang pwede mong gawin:

1. Magpakita agad ng motibo. Kung may gusto ka then magparamdam ka agad.  Huwag nang pa-tweetums at hindi ka bagay.  Isa pa hindi manghuhula yang liligawan mo.  And take note, yung pagpaparamdam hindi ibig sabihin na magiging stalker ka.  So dapat cool ka lang.  As if nothing pero malalim ang dating.
2. Makipagkaibigan ka muna. Mas magiging madali pag may common friends kayo dahil mas easier ang getting-to-know-each-other portion.  No pressure dapat.  Huwag magmadali.  Friends muna.  Get them to trust you first and foremost.  So yung mga actuations mo dapat parang friend lang muna.  Iwasan yung mga titig na para kang adik.
3. Bigyan mo sya ng extra attention. Kung thoughtful ka sa mga friends mo – triplehin mo ang pagiging maaalalahanin sa nililigawan mo.  Dapat text mo ang gigising sa kanya at text mo ang magpapatulog sa kanya.  And word of advice:  Sincere ka dapat sa mga actions mo.  Nababasa ang kaplastikan, no!
4. Kaibiganin mo ang kapamilya nya. As much as possible show your good side always sa pamilya nya.  Not to the point of bribing them naman.  Pag ini-invite mong syang manood ng sine at gustong sumama ng younger kapatid nya, by all means, umuo ka agad.  Be ready sa budget mo kasi may extra kang papakainin.  Sa date na ganito, give more special attention sa chaperone.  Extra points yan.
5. Best foot forward – all the time. Kahit iritado ka na.  Kahit naiinis ka na.  Kahit nauubos na ang pasensya mo.  Smile ever pa rin.  Huwag magpahalatang napapagod ka na.  Kasi kung talagang mahal mo yan kahit ano pang pagdadaanan mo oks lang.  Saka ka na magyawyaw pag sinagot ka na nya.  That would be a great conversation piece!
6. Kung makaka-afford ka give ka ng regalo. Hindi kailangang mamahalin.  Ang importante eh magagamit nya ang ibibigay mo.  Para malaman mo ang size ng tee-shirt or blouse nya or waistline nya, ask a common friend to do it for you.  Kung gusto mo namang sekretuhin na walang makakaalam na bibigyan mo sya ng regalo then eto yung pwede mong linya:  “Ganda naman ng shirt/blouse/pants mo… medium ba ito?  Bagay talaga sayo.” More often than not sasagot yan.
7. School bus dapat ang role mo. Kung kaya ng schedule mo, mainam na hatid-sundo ang drama mo sa kanya.  That way, mapapabilib mo syang talaga.  Kung may overtime sya sa work, hintayin mo talagang matapos saka ihatid mo.  Kung late na natatapos ang class nya, be at the gate fifteen minutes before.  Di naman kailangang may sasakyan ka pero pogi points pag meron.
8. Remember the special days. Dapat alam mo by heart kung kelan ang birthday nya.  Importante din na alam mo ang class schedule nya or ang oras ng office hours nya.  Itong mga information na ito isini-share lang yan sayo pag kampante na sya sayo.  Kaya kapag shinare na yan then wag na wag mong kakalimutan.
9. Food.  Food.  Food. The best way to somebody’s heart is thru their stomach.  Hindi kailangang fancy restaurants.  Kahit barbecue lang oks na yan.  Siempre dapat malinis at masarap din ang food.  Treat your nililigawan as often as possible.  Kasi kapag kumakain kayo mas relaxed ang atmosphere at dyan ka pwede tumodo sa panliligaw mo.
10. Dapat perfect ang timing mo. Tantyahin mo ang situation.  Kasi pag medyo tumatagal na ang panliligaw mo eh dapat malaman mo na kung may pag-asa ka.  Dito talagang masusubok kung magaling kang tumantya.  Kung di mo kayang sabihin ng face to face then i-text mo na lang.  Dalawa ang pwedeng mangyari dyan:  Sasabihin nyang hindi ka talaga nya magustuhan or sasagutin ka nya.  Pero may isang pwedeng mangyari din:  Hihingi pa ng more time yan.  At pag ito ang sagot nya nasa 50% ka na… gusto ka na rin nyan.

Siempre itong mga ito, base on experience no.  Kaya wag nang magtaas ng kilay dyan.  May mga panliligaw din akong naunsyami.  Merong successful din naman.  Meron ding nabitin at meron din ongoing.  Bahala na nga lang si Batman.  Good luck na lang sa panliligaw nyo.  Yun lang.

paano mu malaman kung sya ay bading...

Ilang beses na bang naunsyami ang tibok ng puso mo.  Sa panahon ngayon hindi mo na agad makikilala kung sino ang tunay at sino ang paminta.  Meron na din kasing machong bading.  Kung titingnan mo ay kalaki-laki ng muscles at matipuno talaga ang katawan pero pag nabuking sobra pa kung kumembot sa babae.  Hetong mga dapat mong pansinin sa mga lalake ngayon para malaman mo kung bading ba sila o hindi:

1. Mag-ingat ka sa masyadong tahimik.  Kunyari aloof-type sya.  Kunyari loner sya.  Tigilan ako ng mga loner loner na yan.  Kaya nagpapaka-tahimik ever ang mga yan kasi ayaw nilang mabuking sila.  Ang motto nila:  Less talk, less buking.
2. Metrosexual daw sila kaya allowed silang mag-iinarte sa pananamit at pagkilos.  Utang na loob.  Ang tunay na lalake walang pakealam kung anong itsura nila.  Magduda ka na kung palaging may clutch bag na bitbit ang guy.  Ang laman nito, pabango, pulbos at lip-balm.  Potek na pa-metrosexual epek na yan.  Bayot yan.
3. Tingnan mo ang istilo ng mga relo nila.  Pansinin mo.  Kung tuwing lumalabas eh paiba-iba ng relo at kung anik-anik na istilo – bayot yan.  Kung tunay kang lalake may care ka pa ba na dapat mag-match ang damit mo sa suot mong relo?  Haleerr!
4. Imbitahin mong gumimik.  Pag sumuot ng sleeveless shirt yan, kumaripas ka na ng takbo.  Yan ang kasuotan ng macho gay – mga bayot na pa-macho effect pa kuno.  Kung di man sleeveless na shirt, malamang body-fit na teeshirt at maong ang suot nyan.  Magduda ka na, ateng!
5. Pansinin mo kung sinong tinititigan nyan ng malagkit kapag nasa pasyalan — eh di yung mga nagliliwaliw na pogi sa paligid.  Pag nasa mall kayo at panay punta ng comfort room, naku, ‘day lumuhod na yan ng walang belo.
6. Ang boses!  Ang boses ang numero unong dapat mong pansinin.  Baritone ba kamo?  Sobra bang lalim?  Tapunan mo ng ipis tingnan ko lang kung di titili ang bayot na yan.
7. Sino bang mga kabarkada nyan?  Hindi porke’t lalake ang palaging kasama nyan eh tunay na lalake na din sya.  Magduda ka kung mas enjoy syang makipag-swimming sa mga barkada nyang lalake kesa sa inyo mga naka-bathing suit na babae.
8. Skin-head ba kamo ang lalakeng type mo?  Tapos balbas-sarado?  Good luck na lang sayo.  Yang ang pinaka-simpleng paraan para pagtakpan ang feeling pa-girl ni fafa.  Pa-macho image kuno pero hayok na hayok din pala sa kapwa mhin.
9. And obviously kung wala pa ring syotang babae o asawa ang isang lalakeng lampas na ng 30 years old, magduda ka na.  Am I saying na magduda ka na din sa mga pari?  Well, nobody’s perfect.  Sana nga lang magpakatino na ang bading na pari at wag nang maghasik ng lagim.  Otherwise, tigilan na ang pagiging pari nila, no! Pronto!
10. Pero hindi porke’t may asawa’t anak na ang isang lalake eh true na mhin na sya.  Am sure mahuhuli at mahuhuli din nyo ang kabayutang pinagkakatago-tago ng mga yan.  Sino bang barkada nyan?  Saan ba nagpupupunta sa gabi?  Bakit iritable lagi pag ikaw ang kasama?  Hay naku, isang malaking good luck sa inyo.

O ayan ha!  Siguro naman hindi na kayo magkakamali sa pagpili ng sasagutin.  Although pwede rin naman mali ang sapantaha ko.  Basta ako alam ko kung sino ang true at kung sino ang false.  Been there.  Done that.  Yun lang.

mabuti pa nung bata pa ako...

Mabuti pa nung bata, masaya

Simple lang ang buhay

Simple lang ang gusto

Maibigay man o hindi

Tuloy lang ang ikot ng mundo

Mabuti pa nung bata, masaya

May bespren ka lang, okay na

Samahang walang kondisyon

Laro dito.  Laro doon.

Minsan may tampuhan

Pero andaling magkabalikan

Mabuti pa nung bata, masaya

Hindi importante and materyal na bagay

Laruang kahoy.  Eroplanong papel.

Piniritong saging. Maligamgam na tubig.

Walang kaartehan.

Kung anong meron di ipinagmamaramot

Mabuti pa nung bata, masaya

Walang stress

Walang tensyon

Walang problema

Walang syota.

Walang quota.

Enjoy enjoy lang.

Pero ngayon na tumanda na ako

Naiba na

Mas okay ang mas bata saken

Masarap!

Laban ka?

Akala nyo, emo nanaman no?

Hahahahahaha!

bobo nga ba ang mga bakla?

Naranasan mo na bang ma in love ng todo2 sa isang taong nadampot mu lang sa kung saniksanik? Alam mu bang kahit tanga ka, jackpot sila sa ‘yo? Hulog ka ng langit para sa kanila?

oo ... naranasan ko ring umibig sa isang taong putik…putik nga ba? ..siguro nga…

Ewan ko nga ba, minsan..sa aking kahapon…nakadampot ako ng basura…while making a u-turn back to my office dahil nakalimutan ko laptop ko….

While in the process of making the turn, mey tumawid na lalake cguro mga late teens, eating mane, while holding a plastic containing softdrink sa kanang kamay ... mga 5'6 height matipuno ... bukas ang driver’s side window ko, nakalabas ang kaliwang kamay kac naka yosi ako, kitang-kita ko talaga ang magandang hugis ng kanyang fez, impernes…nginitian nya ako…mapang akit ateh…

Ewan ko ba, cguro kinate ako ng time na un at ngumite rin ako at kinwayan ko sya ... tumabe ako next road and may I lapit sya ... dumungaw sya sa passenger side window ko at “hi and hello” kami… and the rest is history ...

Masarap syang kasama…not to mention ang mga “concert performances nya” sa “show”ko  ate…ang  sarap2 ng feelings ko kapag kasama ko sya…Ang dali kong ma in-love ate, sino naman ang hinde, very gentle man sya and not demanding, nag hihintay lang kung magkano ang givings ko sa kanya, hinde sya katulad ng mga fly-by-night guys whom I encountered, na kahit summer pa, humihinge na ng 13^th month pay…kaya mu yun? ... or maybe part ito ng  long term plan nya...basta, pakiramdam ko mahabang mahaba ang hair ko kapag sya ang kasama ko…

napadalas ang samahan at pagkikita namin. Halos “dedith Reyes” na (araw2 gabi2),  I brought him to my boarding house at may I introduce ko sya sa  landlady ko ... I-pinapakilala ko sya sa mga boardmates ko ..even to my closest of close friends ...minsan nga, kahit bawal, naghaharotan kami sa room ko… We have fun, really fun. Mataray ang  land lady ko pero nagkasundo sila  kasi talagang magaling syang kakwentuhan kahit sa mga walang kwentang bagay, masarap syang pakinggan

Hangang sa nagising na lang akong hanap hanap ko na sya ...feeling ko hinde buo ang room ko kung wala sya, napansin ko nalang na  dumudugo na ang wallet ko...nagsimula lang sa pamasahe nya to school ... then, pati pang snacks at cell phone load nya( gf naman nya ang tinatawagan hinde ako-punyeta!).  Ako na lahat, pate na sa inuman nang mga barkada nya ako na ang taya.  Sponsorship galore ang byuti ko. Kulang na lang ang banner na nagsasaad…- "this Toma is brought to you by ..."

... hanggang sa napansin ko nalang…pati tuition fee nya ako na ang nag bayad…

Dumaan ang mga araw, lingo at buwan..kami pa rin…(kuno)…paano ko naman masabeng kami kung marami kami sa buhay nya, diba? Ano kaya tawag sa relationship na yon, partnership and corp? pero ako ang mey pinaka maraming shares of stock and investment?

Syempre naman, hinde perfect ang aming samahan, mey tampuhan kahit simpleng bagay or mali nya napapansin ko na.  Ang pagsisinungaling, and hinde pagtupad sa mga simpleng pangako, ang pagtawag sa gf nya sa harapan ko, lintek! Pera ko ang pang load nya tapos ang punyetang  babae ang nakinabang?

Napansin ko sinasaktan na nya ako. In all aspects- sa salita, (would you believe kahit sa pananahimik nya nasasaktan ako), sa gawa at sa mga hinde nya ginagawa.

I asked myself habang hawak ko ang isang bote ng beer with  matching tears ...ito ba ang kabayaran sa mga kabutihan kung nagawa sa kanya? Sa sobrang pagmamahal ko sa lintek na hitad na  yan? Oo nga naman, hinde naman nya sinabeng mahal nya ako, kung mey nasabe man sya, alam ko napilitan lang sya,  So bakit ako umaasa? Babae ba ako? ...Tinanong ko sya ule…”do you love me” alam mu ba  anong sagot nya?...sabe nya “hon, kain na  tau, baka gutom ka na”…..

Minsan ti-next  nya, ako-“free ka ba ngayon?” ...wow, excited ako, imagine, he’s the one asking now for a date?…sagot ko “bakit?” Si mama kac, inutusan akong bilhan ng notebook younger sis ko…natuwa naman ako at least, feeling ko gusto na nya akong I date…yun pala para ako ang mgbayad sa school supplies na kailangan “nila”…

All of this, Inilihim ko sa mga  friends ko cuz ayokong pagtawanan ...palabas ko pa naman sa kanila, mabait ang bf ko, tinutulongan ako,..

Until,  sinorpresa ko syang bisitahin…hinde kaagad nya ako napansin ...kasi busy syang nakipagkwentohan sa mga ka berks nya ...

Isa sa kanila tinanong sya ... "tol, bat mu naman pinapaasa ang bading  at  pinatulan mu pa, mabait pa naman sya sa yo, gayong sinabe mu wala ka talagang feeling sa kanya”,

"Tol, sagot nya ...ang bading hulog ng langit yan sa mga lalakeng maswerte….saan ka ba nakakakita ng kahit di mu sila mahal,kusa ka nilang mahalin? kahit di ka gutom, pilit ka nilang pinapakain? piso lang ang  kailangn mu pero bigyan ka ng sandaan!…kahit natulungan mu lang ng konte, ikaw na si superman!…tol, bobo talaga ang mga bading ano?” At kung ayawan ko yan, eh, di, mas bobo ako di ba?...Baboy talaga ng mga bading ano?

Siguro nga bobo ako, at pilit akong nagpaka bulag at bingi sa lahat ng mga katotohanan, dahil na pamahal na sa akin ang lintek na opurtunista na yan! Siguro nga BABOY talaga ako kasi damang dama ko ang pagka PUTIK mo! At kung itutuloy ko ang kahibangan na to ako na ang pinaka BOBO sa mundong ito.

Sa huling pagkikita namin, nag u-turn na naman ako, umiyak at tahimik na umalis at sinabe ko sa sarili ko hinde na ako  "magpakabobo" ... 

anong gagawin kapag trinaydor ka...

I’m sure in our lifetime, may naging kaibigan tayong traydor.

Traydor sa negosyo.  Traydor sa pag-ibig.

Basta traydor ganun at ganun din ang meaning.

Pinakamasaklap eh kapag yung nagtatraydor sayo eh hindi mo inaasahang tatraydurin ka.

At ang pinaka-nagiging malaking problema ay kung papano i-treat ang mga ganitong klaseng tao.

Heto ang maipapayo ko…

1. Tanggalin nyo na agad ang mga hinayupak na yan sa accounts nyo sa FaceBook, friendster, plurk, YM, Twitter at kung anik-anik pa.  Hindi mo na kailangang malaman ang mga pinanggagawa nila.
2. Huwag mo munang i-delete ang phone numbers nila sa cellphone mo.  They might try to call or text you para mag-explain.  Dapat alam mong sa kanila galing ang call or text messages para maramdaman mong masarap mandedma ng traydor.
3. Masama ang manira ng kapwa.  Pero para sa akin exception to the rule ang mga traydor.  Umpisahan mong mag-post ng Blind Item sa shout-out mo.  Box-office hit yan sa dami ng mga usyusero.  Saka ka na magkwento sa katrayduran nila.
4. Sabi nila hate the sin but forgive the sinner.  Neknek sa kung sinumang nagsabi nito.  Hate both of them.  Ikaw na nga ang trinaydor magiinarte ka pa kung sinong dapat lang na i-hate mo?  Hate them to death.
5. Huwag na huwag mong babaguhin ang routine ng buhay mo para umiwas sa mga traydor.  Mahirap sa umpisa lalo pa’t you find yourself in the same party or venue ng mga demonyong yun.  Tiisin mo na lang.  Hayaan mong sila ang mag-walk out.  Huwag nyo akong gayahin dahil hindi ko na uulitin mag-walk out.
6. Chances are magpo-post din ng shout-out ang mga traydor to justify their actions.  Chances are makakarating sayo yan.  Pwes, huwag kang magpapa-apekto.  Ano ka bale?  Remind yourself na hindi ikaw ang gumawa ng kagaguhan.  Ikaw ang ginago kaya’t kahit anong explanation nila, muka pa rin silang basura.
7. I’m sure na may common friends kayo.  Ngayon pa lang sabihin mo na sa common friends nyo what they did to you.  Short of saying na i-delete na rin nila ang mga traydor mula sa friends list nila.  Kung kailangang papiliin mo ang mga common friends mo, gawin mo.
8. Huwag mo nang isipin pang gumanti.  Makakarma din sila.  Huwag mo ring ipagdasal na makarma ang mga traydor kasi hindi papansinin ang dasal mo.  Huwag mo naring isumpa.  Hayaan mo na ang karma ang kumolekta ng ganti sa kanila.
9. Hayaan mo na ang pinagsamahan nyo ng matagal.  Bakit ka pa magpapaka-sentimental?  Ikaw na nga ang inahas mag-eemo ka pa?  Isipin mo na lang na namatayan ka ng pet na maraming galis.
10. And finally, huwag ka nang tatanga-tanga.  Don’t be gullible.  Hindi porke mukang santo eh mabait na.  Hindi porke magaling mag-advise eh mapagkakatiwalaan na.  Hindi porke pari eh hindi naglalandi. Dyan ka na matakot.

Ayan ha, siguro naman magiging mas careful na kayo sa pagpili ng kaibigan.

Umayos ka na at gamitin mo ang utak mo.  Yun lang.

"tito"? or "special someone"?

hhhaaai nku...eto na naman ako early dawn finding myself in the airport waiting for my flight for Manila...upang kasab an... dai...hala oi...but wait...di ba si oj man to cya? my friend by accident nga flight attendant sa PAL?


Hmmm...ay okey...so mey flight sya ngaun...soo? aw wla lang gud...gadahum lang gud...basin pa diay...ooops but impernes hah...waiving galore cya naku...ooohhh gosh...ka "Ho 'tia"(emalia fuentes) jud ni glenn oi...sexy body...marami nag sabe gay sha (pwede sad geisha-gwapa nga hapon sa karaang panahon)...pero hala oi...so macho and nice conversationalist sya...from a to z without stepping on my ideologies and biasis...talagang pang sales ang language nya...well...nakukuha yan sa constant training, practice and exposure...

pagdating sa H.O. meeting kaagad...discussions dito...explain dito..chuva chu chu...eclavu...formal effect and intellectual kuno to the max and  ang ending...kalandian sa mga boss dahil sa  ganda ever ko...haahai...warning nanaman ang ityub oka for not hitting the quota...anyway...pahirapan naman talaga ngaun sir! at least Im eating a piece of slice in my area infested by top 5 banks in the Philippines...ako nga lang ang medium sized bank in uptown Cebu, jusko day! lahat sila goliath while ako si "EVA"o angal ka? hahahaha....

ring...ring...(my phone yan gaga, hinde singsing) yes? (i answered...kinsa pa man diay?) speaking...what? cancelled ang flight? anyway...cge na lang ...so I went ahead to Joy Nostalj...our Corporate Head quarters in Ortigas.(mey condotel ang AUB sa 18th floor for overnight stay)..paso sa lobby...while dragging my trolley...at syempre me konting kimbot para mapansin ng mga male receptionists(yan ay kung mapansin nga ba!!!)..."a sir?...from AUB? kindly proceed to the right info  desk for automatic check in"...wow ha...swabe...so i  continued my pakimbotkimbot...na hala...it was past 6pm na pala...hala...so i hurried up to my room para makakain  na kay gutom ng jud  mga bayot oi!!!...before I can stick in the card in my door(laysho) an over shadowing aura at my back is very eminent ( ang mga bakla talaga mey 3rd eye basta eklets) hala... si... si ...si ...OJ!!! hoi...what are you doing  here?  "I'm always here" don't u know? he replied...Haler!!! I answered...magtatanong ba at ma shock ako kung  alam ko lang, oj? and he gave me that death-defying-makalaglag panty-smile...and I continued by saying di ba for AUB officers ang 18th floor? and He replied..."yeah...i know my tito is an officer from AUB I'll be up with him here tonight"...ug nabugnaw ko hala...ang dami ko na sanang plano (harbatin, kitkitin...mu tumbling, etc) di pla pwede kasi relative sya ng co-officer ko...so when I got inside my bed I phoned-in the front desk...hello miss, who's occupying room#1802?...sir its Mr.....can you forward my call to that room?...aaah sir...mey special instruction here that he doesn't want to accept any call starting 7pm...but i insisted, tell him its caloy and its urgent...okey sir just a minute...and I was starting to get nervous...hello(answered the other end) sir ____? yes speaking he replied...sir, si caloy 'to from Cebu...Oh hi! caloy...Im sorry ha kac I'm with my special someone, can we just talk tomorrow------I dropped dead!!! nalimtan ang panihapon ug natulog nga abli ang baba...toinkz...BANGAW!!!!!

paano ba manligaw???

Kung nasanay ka na nagka-syota ka dahil sa M.U. (mutual understanding) 

then ang panliligaw ang isa sa pinaka-challenging na gawain, sa tutuo lang.   Sa M.U. naman kasi, tinginan lang ng malagkit, ayos na.  Walang masyadong kiyeme.  Gusto kita.  Gusto mo ako.  Mag-syota na tayo.  Ganun kadali.  Pero kung manliligaw ka, sangkaterbang pawis, luha at dugo ang katapat.  Papano ba talagang manligaw?  Ito ang pwede mong gawin:

1. Magpakita agad ng motibo. Kung may gusto ka then magparamdam ka agad.  Huwag nang pa-tweetums at hindi ka bagay.  Isa pa hindi manghuhula yang liligawan mo.  And take note, yung pagpaparamdam hindi ibig sabihin na magiging stalker ka.  So dapat cool ka lang.  As if nothing pero malalim ang dating. in short, pa simply, pero kung pwede na..jusko day! dakmain mu na!!!
2. Makipagkaibigan ka muna. Mas magiging madali pag may common friends kayo dahil mas easier ang getting-to-know-each-other portion.  No pressure dapat.  Huwag magmadali.  Friends muna.  Get them to trust you first and foremost.  So yung mga actuations mo dapat parang friend lang muna.  Iwasan yung mga titig na para kang adik. pero kung adik ka talaga...magsyabo ka nalang dong...waz ka pag aza!
3. Bigyan mo sya ng extra attention. Kung thoughtful ka sa mga friends mo – triplehin mo ang pagiging maaalalahanin sa nililigawan mo.  Dapat text mo ang gigising sa kanya at text mo ang magpapatulog sa kanya.  And word of advice:  Sincere ka dapat sa mga actions mo.  Nababasa ang kaplastikan, no! atsaka...'wag kang magtaka kung waz xya reply...hinde sa ayaw naya...kuripot ka lang...bigyan mu naman ng pang load...gaga!
4. Kaibiganin mo ang kapamilya nya. As much as possible show your good side always sa pamilya nya.  Not to the point of bribing them naman.  Pag ini-invite mong syang manood ng sine at gustong sumama ng younger kapatid nya, by all means, umuo ka agad.  Be ready sa budget mo kasi may extra kang papakainin.  Sa date na ganito, give more special attention sa chaperone.  Extra points yan. piece of advice...lagyan ng laxative ang drinks ng makukulit na chaperone...
5. Best foot forward – all the time. Kahit iritado ka na.  Kahit naiinis ka na.  Kahit nauubos na ang pasensya mo.  Smile ever pa rin.  Huwag magpahalatang napapagod ka na.  Kasi kung talagang mahal mo yan kahit ano pang pagdadaanan mo oks lang.  Saka ka na magyawyaw pag sinagot ka na nya.  That would be a great conversation piece! hubugin mo nga katakot takot ng benefits pati burial benefits, upang mag second thought na iwanan ka...tingnan!!!
6. Kung makaka-afford ka give ka ng regalo. Hindi kailangang mamahalin.  Ang importante eh magagamit nya ang ibibigay mo.  Para malaman mo ang size ng tee-shirt or blouse nya or waistline nya, ask a common friend to do it for you.  Kung gusto mo namang sekretuhin na walang makakaalam na bibigyan mo sya ng regalo then eto yung pwede mong linya:  “Ganda naman ng shirt/blouse/pants mo… medium ba ito?  Bagay talaga sayo.” More often than not sasagot yan. kung bading ka...brief ang ibigay...upang mey alibi ka to say..."oie, suot mo na ba ang brief? bagay ba? tingnan ko nga?" ay sus...next nyan kuflang to the max na...ahahaha
7. School bus dapat ang role mo. Kung kaya ng schedule mo, mainam na hatid-sundo ang drama mo sa kanya.  That way, mapapabilib mo syang talaga.  Kung may overtime sya sa work, hintayin mo talagang matapos saka ihatid mo.  Kung late na natatapos ang class nya, be at the gate fifteen minutes before.  Di naman kailangang may sasakyan ka pero pogi points pag meron.
8. Remember the special days. Dapat alam mo by heart kung kelan ang birthday nya.  Importante din na alam mo ang class schedule nya or ang oras ng office hours nya.  Itong mga information na ito isini-share lang yan sayo pag kampante na sya sayo.  Kaya kapag shinare na yan then wag na wag mong kakalimutan.
9. Food.  Food.  Food. The best way to somebody’s heart is thru their stomach.  Hindi kailangang fancy restaurants.  Kahit barbecue lang oks na yan.  Siempre dapat malinis at masarap din ang food.  Treat your nililigawan as often as possible.  Kasi kapag kumakain kayo mas relaxed ang atmosphere at dyan ka pwede tumodo sa panliligaw mo.
10. Dapat perfect ang timing mo. Tantyahin mo ang situation.  Kasi pag medyo tumatagal na ang panliligaw mo eh dapat malaman mo na kung may pag-asa ka.  Dito talagang masusubok kung magaling kang tumantya.  Kung di mo kayang sabihin ng face to face then i-text mo na lang.  Dalawa ang pwedeng mangyari dyan:  Sasabihin nyang hindi ka talaga nya magustuhan or sasagutin ka nya.  Pero may isang pwedeng mangyari din:  Hihingi pa ng more time yan.  At pag ito ang sagot nya nasa 50% ka na… gusto ka na rin nyan.

Siempre itong mga ito, base on experience no.  Kaya wag nang magtaas ng kilay dyan.  May mga panliligaw din akong naunsyami.  Merong successful din naman.  Meron ding nabitin at meron din ongoing.  Bahala na nga lang si Batman.  Good luck na lang sa panliligaw nyo.  Yun lang.

dati

dati halos ayaw mo akong mawala sa paningin mo...
dati sa akin ka nagtatanong "anong ulam gusto mo"...
dati gustong gusto mung kahawak kamay ako kahit sa pagtulog...
dati pangalan ko ang sambit mu kapag nakalimutan mung mag dala ng towel sa banyo...
dati kapwa tayo excited umuwi upang makita ang isat-isa...
dati halos kulang ang oras upang tayo'y magkasama...
       halos kulang ang laro upang di pag-sasawaan
       halos kulang ang kumot kapag tayoy nag-haharotan...
dati, nung bago ang cell phone, palaging ubos ang load ka titext sa isat-isa...kahit palaging nagkikita...
dati, marami tayong mga plano upang mapanatili ang pagsasama, upang habang buhay ay nasa isat-isa...
dati, kahit betamax lang ayos na tayo...
dati, kahit 30min lunch break, pinagkakasya makasalo lang kita...
dati, kahit umuulan, akoy sinusundo para makasabay mu sa pag uwi...
dati..bukam-bibig natin..."i love you", mas malimit pa sinasabi key sa dasal ko sa maykapal....

...ngayon....

iba na ang kasama mu...
sya na ang kahawak kamay mu...
minsan nagkasalubong tayo, tila, matanaw mu  man lang  ako pilit iniiwasan...
iba na sinasabihan mu ng "I love you"...
minsan nakita ko pa kayo ang sweet2, ang sakit pala...

akala  ko...habambuhay na
akala ko tayo na talaga
akala ko maligaya na...
akala ko walang iba na talaga...

kung dati puro masaya...ngayong puro akala na lang  pala...

mag holding hands jud diay...

taud2 na baya jud ko wa kasakay jeepney...so when i did... i savor all the pollution and abog that goes with  it..suddenly, nakabantay ko tulo(3) ra diay mi ka passengers, duha sa akong atbang...nakabantay ko...sikit kaau silag nilingkoran sa akong atbang...hmm...and boy, both were staring at me...maganda ba ako? I asked myself(oooh alan ayaw comment) on the other hand, na alarm ko...tulisan? haaa?!!!! OMG (oh my golti!!!)  so hinay2 kog pa slide going to the entrance of the jeepney...totok man gihapon oi...hala...nangurog na jud ko...wa ra ba ko kapanangtang sa akong mga alahas...areyos sa dungan(ofkors asa pa man diay), areyos sa ilong (haaa???) ug areyos sa totoy (talagggaaaa???!!!)...nangurog na jud ko...i wanted to shout to the driver...(in a very colegiala accent) MANOY PAKI STEP SA BREAK, PLS!!!! but it seems wa juy mugawas nga tingog sa akong baba...ay peste, mao diay kay gakaon kug lolipop (chupa chups, no other than...sosyal!!! sosyal ba?!!!) so I wanted to luwa...but I look around...hala, basin naay makakita naku nga pulis dakpon nya ko mangluwa(feeling nako naa kos singapore...ka echos ba oi...wa pa raba ko katunob ana nga lugar, kay nag save lage ko oi, mao ni una kog adto sa europe...atay oi)....finally...nihunong ang jeep kay stop ang light sa tabunok...hhaaaayy...what a relief...ug nanaog ko...and as the jeepney went on to travel...I saw the two guys...held each other's hand and gave each other a smuck...BANGAS KA!!!! GOBLATS NANATCH!!!1

the problem is...sometimes what is right is not what's in your heart, sometimes what is right is dictated by norms and culture...by people around you who says only "mayra" when u fall but don't even give you a hand when u need them. So I said to myself, what ever is in my heart is what I follow, cuz it makes me happy and I don't care about what other people say whether its right or wrong for them...after all, they will never learn to count the tears i have spent for the little things i treasure...

Dear Fellow Frustration Sufferer, (with the help of doc chela)

Do you feel like you could do more and be more in one or more areas of your life? 

Are the effects of frustration holding you back?

Maybe you have a long history of unmet goals and desires?

Do you find yourself giving up on projects and goals more easily?

Are you quick to anger?

These are all symptoms of Frustration.

And, yes, you can have more, do more, and be more when you learn to conquer the debilitating effects of this very human emotion. I'll share with you the techniques I have discovered to render frustration powerless in your life. The same techniques that took years of trial and error to perfect in individuals who've sought my counsel are now available in the Anatomy of Frustration.

Frustration Destroys Your Health and Well-Being

Many people have approached me over the years in regards to the devastating effects of frustration in their lives. For most people, like yourself, there are too many "To Do" items on your list, too many commitments, unfulfilled goals, and more month than money. These overwhelming demands on your time and psyche lead to frustration and, as a result, to the debilitating effects on your health and well-being.

The effects of frustration stimulate your body's natural defense mechanism with a stress response. It ignites your sympathetic nervous system to produce a fight-or-flight response in the body. Adrenaline is released and your blood vessels constrict causing your blood pressure to rise. Your heart rate increases, pupils dilate, you begin to perspire, and in extreme cases vomiting occurs.

If you allow frustration to fester and build within your nervous system, the condition only worsens wreaking havoc on your adrenal system. The adrenal medulla releases acetylcholine which triggers the secretion of adrenaline. This is the fight-or-flight response in full-effect.

Prolonged exposure causes the stress hormone cortisol to enter the bloodstream. Cortisol increases blood pressure, blood sugar, and causes a reduction in the immune response. This can have devastating effects on the cardiovascular system. In addition, it has been known to damage cells in the hippocampus area of the brain resulting in learning impairment.

Frustration is one of the major triggers for stress. The problem is that frustration can become a habit. We repeat the same unconscious patterns of frustrated thinking and, of course, get the same disappointing results. They say the definition of insanity is "doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result." This is what frustration is, an unconscious pattern that needs to be broken to bring peace of mind and clear thinking. If not, the result is chronic stress, a demoralizing life, and, eventually, degenerative disease (dis-ease) and illness.

stucked

sus ambot.!!! i was stucked in the airport for  2,3,4 hours without  anyone telling me why i have to be there...imagine I was tagging along with me my pang flight stewardess trolley...echos ha, yes dear...poise pa ko at first, then sus day, can u imagine ba that as the hours moved on,more and more people, not counting  the mabahu, had gathered around me...some are not even moving away from me...guot jud oi...peste! unya ingnon lang ka nga nothing is final? nothing is clear...

dude i'm still very much in love with u and i can't count how much u had been a blessing to my life... u picked me up when i was down and despite our "messy" relationship the friendship never end...I will never say "thanks for everything" cuz it means goodbye...and I can only say goodbye to acquintances not to a relationship and never to a friend... i'll cherish everything from the laughter we shared, to the harsh words we threw to ourselves and the comfort u'v extended me... how i wish life will be perfect, but its not. neither u nor i. so i'll be contended of thinking that whenever im hurt i will look back and i can still see that cute lil eyes who winked at me and murmured something i never understood then(now i know 'twas "aist'masu") only to find out i will end up in ur arms...i'll never let loose of you, i'll just hang on...ur one person who is irreplaceable...pinangga tika kaayo(ur fave cebuano) and im soooo proud of u DESPITE...

PHILIPPINE JURISPRUDENCE - FULL TEXT The Lawphil Project – Ateneo De Manila Univ. Law Foundation G.R. No. 127980 December 19, 2005 Carlos Miranda Gonzales. a.k.a. tsakon,caloy, yoyoy, loloy vs. Tau Gamma Phi and its members: EMMANUEL SALES, RONALD HOLMES, JUDE DELA TORRE, AMPARO RIO, CARMELITA QUEBENGCO, AGNES YUHICO , ET AL.

Republic of the Philippines SUPREME COURT Manila THIRD DIVISION G.R. No. 12798 December 19, 2005

x x x From the testimonies of the complaining witnesses, it appears that one afternoon prior to March 29, 19__, Mr. Carlos Miranda Gonzales was about to ride a white Toyota dx car, when he overheard two men bad-mouthing and apparently angry at him. The men apparently in Cebuano dialect said “kani nalang manghud atong baslan” (we will revenged the younger brother, instead) …simultaneously grabbing the victim and forced him to a taxi and brought him to an outskirt place called Mabolo grounds and there he was punched, kicked bruised… to almost death… until an ambulance passed by which to the assailant’s thought of it as a police car… They left the victim half dead…

…Courts reject alibi when there are credible eyewitnesses to the crime who can positively identify the accused.Alibi is an inherently weak defense and courts must receive it with caution because one can easily fabricate an alibi.Jurisprudence holds that denial, like alibi, is inherently weak and crumbles in light of positive declarations of truthful witnesses who testified on affirmative matters that accused were at the scene of the crime and were the victim's assailants. As between categorical testimonies that ring of truth on one hand and a bare denial on the other, the former must prevail. Alibi is the weakest of all defenses for it is easy to fabricate and difficult to disprove, and it is for this reason that it cannot prevail over the positive identification of accused by the witnesses…

…Hence this court finds the accused guilty and sentenced them to 20 years of imprisonment and a financial penalty of P500,000.00 …the finality disposal is executable after court of appeal decided to concur previous decisions which was overturned by the highest court of the land...

The writ of preliminary injunction dated September 25, 1995 is declared to be in force and effect. Let a copy of this Order and the writ be served personally by the Court's sheriff upon the respondents at petitioners' expense. SO ORDERED. SO ORDERED. Ynares-Santiago, Chairperson, Quisumbing *, Chico-Nazario, Velasco, Jr. ** , JJ., concur. Footnotes * Vice Associate Justice Ma. Alicia Austria-Martinez, per Raffle dated November 28, 2001. Justice Austria-Martinez concurred with the CA decision under consideration when she was still a member of that Court (see note 2). ** Vice Associate Justice Antonio Eduardo B. Nachura, per Raffle dated November 19, 2001. Justice Nachura previously participated in this case as Solicitor General.

to be happy or to be right?

In life, sigh, we just can’t have everything, and in a relationship, we just can’t make it perfect. Yes, we can’t really own somebody, we just can have them for a while…I was in my most crucial stage of my medical history…and i want him to be there, not that his presence will change the results of the physical and laboratory exams but for me to have someone to hold on to, cuz i was becoming weaker and weaker after one test to another. when u under go confirmatory tests, lots of things are rattling in ur mind…what if…what if…unending what ifs…I was looking around, waiting…waiting for him…but he was no were to be found all i have i have is the lil’ kid whom i consider my younger bro and the other one is my badminton buddy…but my mind says- it could and should be him…there were excuses, there were alibis, but non of those touches my hemlines…“kung gusto ng tao gagawan ng paraan, kung ayaw ng tao maraming dahilan”. yes he was texting me every minute asking me if m okey,telling me “im praying for u”, etc… but i wanna hug him, to comfort me, to be there—PHYSICALLY! my goodness! isn’t that hard to understand? sobs…I crossed the “highest mountain” just to see u through when u only have one minor bruise and now that it’s my turn needing u, u can’t even cross the street?…instead of an overnight stay in the hospital…i retreated to my comfy pad…and pour out all my anger, sentiments, whatever, and while crying out my emotions i passed out…i only woke up when i heard beboy(my badminton buddy) laughing while watching tv beside me…then at 11pm when he realized im getting fine he left and i called up my best friend albert, then i poured out all my emotional upsets, after two hours, we have to cut our conversation cuz on the other line “his” mom called me up why “her son” is crying… and we talked but there was a stand off, after an hour of argument, we decided to hang up the phone for each other…then after 12 hours, we came face to face…same hard emotions but in low tone voices, controlled but not subdued…he has valid reasons but for me its not acceptable…there were apologies but its now passe’ and after 2 hours of word war, we now both face each other the premise of “shall we continue this relationship, or not?” and he started kissing me and we made love til the morning came…and now we are face with a one million dollar question…what is more important, to be happy or to be right?

everytime someone else fail, someone succeeded

I really agree with yesterday’s the buzz Kris Aquino’s comment on Mariel and Zanjo’s(abs-cbn talents) break-up with an angle of Robin Padilla’s coming in to wowowee. I am writing this not because I am hooked to chismiss, but Kris made a valid point that all of us should also be aware in loving someone and taking for granted the one we love.

Zanjo(am I right in spelling?), per Kris, made it clear from the very start to Mariel, that his priority will always be his family, to support them financially that is. Hence, he has to work and work(no play?- I don’t know) hence, he has the license to tell Mariel in some dates that “I can’t go”…Well, for me, it could be valid, and it could be “his way of alibi” not to go. Because I always believe in the saying that “love always find ways”, excuse me that is not copied from BDO…hmpf….

So being a woman of good breeding(girls are good in these-mapagtiis), Mariel, had accepted all these “excuses” in the guise of “working hard for the money”. So where’s Robin Padilla in that angle?…well…they (mariel and robin), met in wowowee, and Mariel’s initial statement was, “I am afraid to look at him in his eyes, cuz I might fall in love with him.”. Fall in “love” or fall in “lust”?, IF I’m the one standing there Its definitely LUST…hahahaha… you know, Robin has a very tantalizing eyes that even me can’t refuse(owhssss??? lol .. as if I had a personal experience with Robin). But I think it’s more than what meets Mariel’s eyes, I sincerely believe, it’s the Attention and Gentleness that Robin is very famous of (parang lechon ng Cebu?), that Mariel had experienced (and tasted? Hahahaha….okad?)

Anything that we dream of from someone that we love and that person failed to give will always be a vehicle for drifting apart from any relationship especially when somebody will start providing it. And the person who can provide it to you will always become your knight in shining armor despite glaring differences and obstructions.

why can't i let go of my past

...I've been kicked, punch, spit, and cursed and i almost lost my life...because my bro entered a frat and he committed violations to an opponent frat. Since he is all the time around his bros, he can't be touched and being revenged to. I, being secretly identified to be his sibling...i paid the cost...i have harbored those ill feelings deep inside me ----alone....alone...yes. I slowly moved on and lived a happy life after that, thought it was....later, after 30 years, of loving and living and leaving, i met a new young cute guy.... I secretly browsed his FB and knew that most of his friends are member of that frat. After 2 years, I have now the courage to ask him if indeed he is one of 'em. And the simple "yes" dumbfounded me...Whaat???? I shouted, pak! Pak! I have not controlled myself, my world became dark, I was trembling in anger and I was crying while I attacked him inside my car along a heavy trafficked area, I was out of control and the rest I don't know what I did. He just let me loose out my anger...